Over lunch, we talked about all kinds of things, including our careers, relationships and hobbies. His personal life wasn’t great either, as he told me that he’d recently separated from his long-term girlfriend. I’m having a run of bad luck. I was surprised by his response as I’d never thought of him as someone who thought that luck controlled his life. He told me he did believe in bad luck because of everything happened to me. While chance events certainly occur, they are purely random in nature. In other words, good luck and bad luck don’t exist in the way that people believe. And more importantly, even if random negative events do come along, our perspective and reaction can turn them into positive things.
Your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. Better still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky and change your luck. Stop believing that what happens in life is out of your control. Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside yourself. It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives. Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes. Most successful people take the opposite view. This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like.
They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better. Are they luckier than the others? Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can. No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just .
Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief. Your locus of control isn’t genetic. If it isn’t working for you, change it. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind. In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors.